Like-Minded Individuals

Is looking for a like-minded individual considered judging the people you meet?

With both good and bad interpretations of the word judging, perhaps due to the implication of trust, this becomes an interesting question to say the least. Before you answer (unless you already have), consider the question is only brought to you through this digital media, in a modern(ish) digital realm. In the physical world, where people can look into each other's eyes, read body language and facial expressions, we understand more than each other's words. Here, the question has no emotion, no real passion to show care or understanding. The words have less value without the voice of the human being who created the arrangement. My question is just a group of words on a screen. Would the answer be the same if I randomly met you somewhere and casually asked you in conversation? This being a question about a question, consider an answer about your answer.

Perhaps this two directional answer will clear things up. I tried to have one no and one yes, but all I could come up with was two yeses. So, is looking for like-minded individuals judging those who we meet? Yes, if you consider them like-minded, and yes, if you consider them as having some different kind of mind than you have. It's finding someone different than ourselves is when we pass our judgment over to our opinion, and then onto those we have met. We are all like-minded by nature, we simply use our judgment both positively and negatively. Keep in mind, like-minded people we meet become our friends, our buddies, those who would do anything for us, and us for them. Naturally we look for more friends to share our like minds with. Interests and similarities form attraction, unlike magnetic opposites. We don't get together and hang out, chill, or whatever you might do to annoy or hate each other.

Using your judgment typically involves consideration, and real time reasoning in place of assumption. Your better judgment contains all the things you would have yourself judged with or by. It has compassion, understanding, and a direct link to the wonder of forgiveness. Kindness is a product of love, and delivered by our better judgment. It's not just the definition of fair, it's the entire concept of it. We use our judgment as a foundation for the pillars of trust. Your better judgment is a reflection of your true understanding of love, something we were born from. Although it is tied to our core emotion, it can be disguised or cloaked at times, due in part to the depth and complexity of fear, and the towering heights of trust. Using poor judgment is actually using a lack of judgment, and will typically involve some degree of fear. Clouded or missing judgment can lead to the development of arrogance. With even a mildly arrogant mindset, assumption will overcome reasoning, doubt will overcome trust.

So, if you should find yourself using judgment on people you meet remember this, kept to yourself it can always be changed, once you voice your opinion, judgment has been passed. Your judgment, and your opinions are the real you, they are based on your perspective of life...


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Archie Papa...

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